Imagine two scenarios. 1. Where someone is directing hateful language at you. 2. Where someone is telling you how funny you are.
Are you there yet?
Now think about this, with extreme care: in both cases you were faced with a choice where you could respond either with anger or laughter.
In the one case it is almost exclusively common to be angry and the other happy.
Now imagine this: next time you are in scenario 1 respond with laughter and see what happens. I do not mean that you should do it because you are some kind of diplomat.
I do mean you do it because you had the choice to be angry or not angry about it. And this time you made the right choice. It was a matter of freedom or slavery for you and you chose freedom this time.
Every time you're angry about hateful speech you are signalling obedience to the tribe. And the signal says, "I submit my freedom to you, the tribe. You to me are everything" as Hot Chocolate once sung to us.
The only reason you get angry when confronted with hateful speech is that you fear that some or the rest of your tribe might, just might, agree with the speaker. Your tribe, you believe is your defender, you believe.
But is it? Are you not your own best defender if you're a freeman?
There is no known way physically and scientifically in this universe that someone being hateful to you can force you to respond with anger. No one has that power over you. The anger was entirely a choice that you made and the action from your anger was fully initiated by you, for the benefit of the tribe.
You can submit and become angry. Or you can stand tall and retain your freedom. The whole thing is totally a matter for you. The nasty hateful speaker will have been merely a bystander with no power waiting for you to submit.
The right choice is to respond with laughter, meaning you have used your right to use freedom of laughter. No law or judge is required. A judge is only required by an obedient instrument of authority.
Are you the hand, or the brain?
If everyone acted like this not only would all hate be ignored. Freedom of speech and all the nonsense that follows that would be totally obviated.